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The art of being aware of what two partners in a relationship feel emotional creates a platform for communication. Communication is considered healthy for relationships. Most relationships break when the partners stop having interests or rather understanding their partner’s emotional feelings. Both emotional and intellectual connection creates empathy between partner’s experience. In so many relationships, communication is non-verbal. Partners communicate by actions. Therefore, it is important to understand the body language used in a relationship for it to work. Partners should be able to read cues as well as be able to send non-verbal cues.

Love At First Sight

Most people fall in love by just looking at one another as well as listening to one another. At the beginning of a relationship, most partners spend time just chatting and spending hours together as well as try to look for new experiences that are exciting. If two partners spend quality face to face time, communication is created as well as understanding one’s partner. In the world today, face-to-face communication has been eroded. It has been replaced by the new digital conversation that mainly is the social media- Facebook and use of WhatsApp, Twitter, Instagram, vibes connect, Skype and so on. These modes of interaction between partners create destruction on an emotional level thus undermining the rule of physical interaction. Physical interaction brings about the intimacy that partners felt when they were newbies.

Consider Couple Therapy

Some couples depend on therapy in the event of emotional crackdown or distress in their relationships. In such cases, individual therapy and couples seek external advice to help call, their spirits and make rational decisions that will not implicate adverse effect to their relationship or their families. You can go through this couples counselling questionnaire to get an idea of how couple counselling can help you to make your relationship better. Couples counselling could be a significant investment of time and energy, but the end results are what matters.

Learn From Your Mistakes

It’s important to learn from experiences of past events of conflicts as well as arguments. Learning your partner’s reactions towards stressful situations such as internal conflicts is the best mode of familiarising yourself with your companion. Arguments and fights can be overwhelming. The real character traits of partners are depicted from an argument. During arguments, it is important to try and be calm. If it is possible, one can take time out.

Always Hope The Best

It’s important to bring positive energy from family, friends as well as outside interests to stimulate and enrich it. It is not advisable to have high hopes in a relationship. It puts lots of unnecessary and unhealthy pressure on a relationship.

Feelings Keep Your Relationship Alive

Physical intimacy can be described as the expression of feelings towards a relationship between friends. In relationships, it is considered to be sexual tension or attraction that couples feel. The sensual embrace should be kept live for a family to work else the partners will feel lonely if there is no sexual attraction in the relationship. It is also vital that one partner can find out what one’s partner likes. Touch is significant to a good relationship, but unwanted touch can make a person withdraw from the intimacy.

 Don’t Give Up Because Of Conflicts

All relationships have conflicts, be it work relationships, family relationships or love relationships. Different people use different methods to resolve problems some will communicate to each other; others will use pleasant surprises to say sorry others will use humour in resolving their disagreements. The bottom line is the mode or method used by people to address conflict matters. It should be performed in a peaceful manner that will involve mutual respect for one’s partner as well as understanding. Feelings are easily hurt. During stressful circumstances, an individual should take time for themselves.

Set High Expectations On Your Relationship

This is to say that a couple should set realistic goal according to their standards as well as their potential. Research has proven that people who set high expectations get more. Some people have idealistic goals that they expect from a relationship some of which include romance and passion. They want to be treated well in a relationship. Such people end up getting all these expectations fulfilled in their marriages.
But there are those who set low standards; such relationships do not last.

Listen, Don’t Argue

Listening to one’s partner is vital to a relationship. Good listener shows that he or she cares for his or her partner effectively. Being a good listener also entails being able to read the non-verbal cues, not just the verbal communication. In fact, non-verbal cues give more accurate information than verbal ones. Thus listening is very healthy and vital for a relationship to grow and remain healthy.

Communicate About Financials

It is important for couples to stop fighting about money. Communication can be hard. It’s not easy. But the issue of money and finances often requires openness and assertiveness. The question about money may bring about poor spending habits or improper budgeting of family finances. When such issues arise, it is significant that the individuals communicate effect to resolve it. Maybe by setting some ground rules on how efficiently they can budget their finances to exhaust their needs.

Consider Having Kids?

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For a developing family relationship, it is important to talk or discuss the number of kids the couple would want to have. It should also be noted the period of these children and the order in which they would want to bring them up

Believe In You, Be Spiritual

It is also important to get spiritual affiliation by reading religious books. Religion is there to give people hope of a better future. Since we live on hope for a better future, there is a need to associate oneself or as a couple with religious groups such as churches or prayer groups to be spiritually uplifted.

Respect Each Other

Mutual respect is two-way objective. Both partners must appreciate one another for a family to last long. The wife should be able to acknowledge her husband as the head of the household irrespective of the bread winner.

Keep Time For Your Relationship

Setting aside a weekend or a holiday for an outdoor family gathering can be healthy for a family. Alternatively, the couple can decide to have aerobics classes together or go fishing even without the kids. The core goal is to keep the fire burning. The relationship should be strengthened at all costs.

Every individual in a relationship has a responsibility. There are also tasks around the house that need to be done daily. Creating humour out of such duties or chores enables closeness that a couple seeks in a relationship. There is a promotion of togetherness and thus deeming the relationship healthy.

 

If you like to read about obesity, then you might have a look at “Obesity- Caused by an Eating Disorder?

You cannot generalise obesity. Obesity has three leading causes, and some of them are uncontrollable. How does obesity come about? Let’s take a look at these three factors to obesity.

Biological

Biological factors could cause your obesity.

  • Genetics is related to obesity, although the connection has not been directly established. There is a connection, but the extension or depth of the relationship is what is in question.
  • Hormone functions sometimes cause one to be more drawn to food than they would normally be.
  • Sometimes the thyroid or pituitary glands are malfunctioning, causing one to put on more weight.

These factors are things that the person cannot control. If their thyroid gland is damaged, it is damaged. They can’t only fix it.

Psychological

  • Having a negative body image can cause one to desire more food. Perhaps you are receiving negative messages from your peers. You feel like you are too fat or too skinny. You turn to food as a comfort.
  • In the same way, a negative self-esteem can cause one to desire comfort that comes from eating a delicious meal. You want to numb the pain.

Environmental

  • A dysfunctional family can cause one to eat more in a desire to “escape” the problems.
  • Abuse of any kind can make someone feel as though their world is unstable. They try to take control of even a small part of that world. When you feel helpless in an abuse situation, you can at least control what and when and how much you eat.
  • Perhaps your job requires that you sit for extended periods of time. You eat a reasonable amount, but that lack of exercise means that you burn no calories. The food is eaten and but is not used by the body.

Eating Disorders that Result in Obesity

Two main eating disorders resulted in obesity: binge eating and disordered eating.

Binge Eating

Binge eating is when one eats to compensate for a problem in their life. Binge eating can be caused by psychological factors or environmental factors.

What are the signs of binge eating? Here are some questions to ask. Evaluate the answers and see where you rank. If you answer yes to these questions, then you could be a binge eater.

  • Do you feel out of control when you begin to eat?
  • Do you think about food often?
  • Do you feel upset at yourself after eating?
  • Do you feel sick after eating?
  • Do you feel as though you have no control of your eating?

What does binge eating look like? Binge eaters turn to food for comfort. It usually feels good as they start to eat. Binge eaters only stop when feeling sick. At that point, they feel disgusted with themselves for giving in. The binge eating does not solve Their problems. Instead, they are made bigger. Each time, they feel less and less able to control themselves.

Here is Greg’s story. When Greg was little, many kids teased him about being fat. Greg hated it and didn’t have a lot of friends. When he got older, he wasn’t happy with his marriage, and he began to search for ways to fill that hole. Greg started looking to food. He would try to eat healthfully for a few days. Then, he would feel like life was spinning out of control, and he would go to food for comfort. He would eat until he felt sick then lay on the couch, angry with himself. Greg suffers from binge eating.

Disordered Eating

Disordered eating is mostly based on failure to care for oneself. Disordered eating consists of skipping meals, eating in secret, eating when not hungry, and eating fatty foods. Because people have such busy lives, they find it easy to skip a meal or pick up take-out food. Take-out food is very greasy and can cause one to gain weight rapidly if eaten often.

Here is Diane’s story. Diane, a college student, keeps a very busy schedule. She is not only taking a full load of classes, but she is also working ten hours a week. Throwing a large amount of homework in the mix too, Diane barely has time to breathe, let alone cook. So, instead, she orders a lot of take-out food or heats things up in the microwave. Sometimes, there’s not the time to eat, so she just skips. But later, she feels super hungry so she makes microwave popcorn to fill her up. Diane suffers from disordered eating.

So What’s the Problem?

Binge eating or disordered eating can lead to obesity. Obesity can lead to diabetes. It is always easier to fix a problem at the beginning than to let it drag on and on without a solution.

What Is The Solution?

There are three different types of treatments.

  • Medical care. Perhaps your problem is severe. You know you have an eating disorder, but you are not sure how to stop so you can avoid obesity. Talking to a doctor can give you a lot of insight into your particular problem and the options you have.
  • Therapy. Perhaps your problem is not biological, but psychological. You think so lowly of yourself that you don’t know what the point is of even trying to fix anything. Talking to a therapist can help you see past that veil of untruth. You can see the better paths open to you.
  • Nutrition. Maybe you just need to talk to a nutritionist. Speak to a nutritionist can give you insight into what a healthy eating plan looks like. You can make a particular diet plan that will work with your schedule and tastes.

I suggest you try one of the treatment plans above if you find yourself on the path to obesity.